Frequently asked questions about LGBT

Here are some answers to frequently asked questions about LGBT. We hope you find an answer to your question.

Can LGBT people have children?
Yes! Many LGBT people do have children, and it is becoming more common. In some countries, women have the option of becoming pregnant with a sperm donor. Many choose to share parenthood with friends, for example a gay couple and a lesbian couple having a child through insemination, where two of the four parents are the biological parents. In a few countries, gay or lesbian couples can adopt, or gay men can have children with the help of a surrogate mother. In most countries, however, LGBT people do not have the same rights as others when it comes to having and caring for children. close
How do two boys or two girls have sex with one another?
Well, how do a girl and a boy have sex with each other? There can be many answers, right? The ways gay and lesbians have sex are just as different from person to person, depending on individual preferences and the feelings between the sexual partners. close
How do you know that you are gay, lesbian or bisexual?
Just as when you are heterosexual, sexual orientation is not just a question of what you do and with whom: You can feel that you are heterosexual, gay, lesbian or bisexual even if you have never kissed or had sex with someone. It is a matter of how you feel about yourself and others: Who you are attracted to, fall in love with, would like to be with. Of course, in a society where everyone is expected to be heterosexual, many LGBT people have a feeling of being “different” until they meet others who are also not heterosexual. close
How do you know that you are transgender?
Being transgender means that you feel like and identify with another gender than the biological sex of your body. For example you can be born with a girl’s body but feel much more like a boy and wish to live your life as a boy. Many transgender people say that they wished for another body already before they started school. But being transgender does not mean that you necessarily want to change your body through surgery. Being transgender has nothing to do with sexual orientation: As a transgender person, you can be straight, gay, lesbian or bisexual. close
How normal is it to be gay/lesbian/bisexual/transgender?
What does it mean that something is “normal”? Something can be considered normal even if it only applies to a minority in a society – going to university for example. If we look at numbers, it is not possible to know exactly how many people are LGBT. As long as there is prejudice against LGBT-people some will choose not to be open about their sexual orientation or gender identity, perhaps not even to themselves. However, most studies find that between 5 and 10 % of a population is homosexual or bisexual. There are no certain numbers for how many people are transgender, but some estimates say 2-3 %. close
Is homosexuality inborn or is it a choice?
Most people feel that they do not choose their sexual orientation, regardless if they are hetero-, homo- or bisexual. However, you have the choice whether to be open about who you are and live your life accordingly. Who you are attracted to and fall in love with can also change during your life: Some people live as heterosexuals for a part of their life and then fall for someone of the same sex, without feeling that they have hidden their homosexuality before, or suddenly “chosen” to be homosexual. close
What can LGBT people do if they are harassed or bullied at school by other students or professors?
LGBT people have the same rights not to be bullied or discriminated against as everyone else. And it is the school’s responsibility to stop bullying or unequal treatment. It is not the responsibility of the individual student to explain or justify herself or himself to make others “understand”. If you see someone being bullied on grounds of sexual orientation or gender identity, you can speak up and say that you disagree with the one(s) doing the bullying. If you experience bullying yourself, you can contact an LGBT organization in your country for advice and help. You can also talk to a teacher or someone else that you trust in school. close
What does it mean to “come out”?
To come out is to begin expressing your feelings and telling others about your sexual orientation, for example that you are attracted to both boys and girls. This can feel difficult in a society where everyone is expected to be heterosexual, and it is common to be nervous about the reactions from your family and friends. However, many homosexual and bisexual people do not at all experience the negative reactions that they were nervous about before coming out. close
What is homophobia, biphobia and transphobia?
Fear or other negative attitudes and emotions towards homosexual, bisexual or transgender persons. These phobias are manifested in many different ways: discrimination, bullying or even violence against LGBT persons. Calling somebody “gay” in school for example can be an expression of homophobia. close
What’s the difference between gender identity and sexual orientation?
Gender identity refers to a person’s experience of their gender, which may or may not correspond with the sex assigned at birth. Sexual orientation refers to a person’s emotional, affectional and sexual attraction to individuals of a different gender or the same gender or more than one gender. close